what follows then is nothing new but worth writing it down here.
so one fine sunny morning I choose to wear a tight, low neck red top...I take the mmts from begumpet to seetafalmandi...as fate has it I after no so much of a search get a seat just in front of a not so good looking guy/man. A adjust myself at the joy of not having missed the train and having got a seat. And what do i spot next...this gentle-man was gently staring at my breasts, which unlike on normal days were a bit prominent becoz of the lovely red top(so I thought). With slight discomfort I start staring back at the man, and this helps cause he shifts his stare somwhere else, which came back everynow and then to my red breasts, yet atleast some relief. Happy at my success i turn my face to the other side where another man has hoisted himself. Actually the whole compartment looked empty but this man chose the space right next to my seat and stood there.
now ask what the hell he can stand there atleast he wasn't staring...so I thought. But this man had a better position as from top my breasts had a better view...don forget i was wearing a low cut dress. I get back tomy defense and stare at him with disgust...helps again he turns his head away...i smile and find the other man staring at them once again...i stare back...n turn back...the other man was peeping...i stare back....he turns his head away...ufff...that was some turning and staring i tell you.
I franatically express my discomfort and disgust to other co-passengers (men mostly n women too) hoping for some rescue...
and what do I get...more hatefull glances...which clearly indicated that they all were cursing ....ME for wearing such a dress that invited men's attention...hah! poor me sit guiltly till seetafalmandi and jump out of the train. after a long sad and lonely walk which attracted some male attention i enter my campus and meet two of my friends at the gate...and guess what do they tell me...
hey woman looking wonderful in this RED TOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
aaaaaaaaaaaah ! I lOVE THIS PLACE.
22 comments:
ok whoever this is, must admit a well matched comment. Thoguh i still need to understand it fully and only then will/can i comment back to it...but good.
Solan, Be happy that at least they look! some day,far far away for you, that power will be lost.
No one looks at old women. :(
i cant even ask you to take it as a compliment type thingy...shrug n forget
i dont know how leching and ogling can be flattering, at best its irritating and at worse nerve wrecking, and "no" fromheart, we will not look at it from the man's pont of view.
Uglygirl has a whole different perspective then I do.
Being a lecher & staring at a girl are not the same, i think. The guys that turn their heads away when they get caught watching are not so bad.
It's the ones that leer with that challeging smirk, those are the ones you want to slap their face off.
i agree l>t but you know why even stare. you tell me how many people do you stare at and make them feel uncomfortable. And plz its not as if they (men) stare at us as one integrated being, rather they disintegrate our body parts n then stare at one particular thing ...n that i say is disgusting n rude.
asserting yourself is not fighting it out
and that was in response to ????????????
yah even i ahll say the same asserting yoursel is not fighting it out...
re-assess your comprehension skills girl
its good to be self righteous but alarmingly stupid when you flaunt it.
what does that mean
"and that was in response to ????????????"
DO you think I am a part of your bastion that indulges in comment and only then counter-comment
And please try to shed your pre-occupations, if at all you re-view others...in this case my comment.
i just said asserting is not fighting yourself out - and I believe my words dont indicate a fight - either its a serious lack of comprehension on your part or it is your preoccupation that makes you think i am always in a duel.
learning is an unending process...dont get yourself arrested...move on ...you are going good
That is all true solan, but I give men a break. Weak creatures that they are. :)
My trouble is i like men too much.
just a thought - do guys at all feel uncomfy when women ogle at them.. cmon - we too ogle u know..
this is still better than the day UG n I were coming to CIEFL. this sick old bastard kept TALKING to UG's breasts.she wasn't even wearing anything tight or low neck!
men! indian men! most need to b shot between their eyes.
@sid, i guess you are true, but then the way i react is the way my defense works. Most importantly what you write always seems to ellude not only mine but normal comprehension. so there you go.
@l>t so do I, but then you can't always be protective for them.
long live mizfit !!!!!!!!!!
What I say doesnt ellude normal comprehension or else I would not have got published for 34 times in the last 4 years
Moreover...
when you think on one line you tend to keep unaware of the infinite others.
you school your thoughts with the dominant stream your intellect dictates at that space and time.
care for the anti-thesis to feel MAAYA
Funny thing. I just heard today. In this theatre group I'm sorta involved with, a guy just got kicked out for inappropiate touching of one of the other members. It was his third time being warned. What I think the problem is, was that he was not reprimanded hard anuff the first time.
My daughter who is an exotic dancer, has to put up with men trying to touch her alot.
She has learned to be mean & has given a guy a bloody nose before.
Of course that doesn't work in all circumstances.
my expections as a woman in India is fairly the same as anybody's anywhere, which is just that people don't ogle n most importantly men.
And plz for heavens don tell me about women ogling n stuff which ofcourse happens but men ogling has a different dynamics to it all together. Their is some amount of power play there, men ogle at women at any circumstance, in any clothes and that arises out of the right they feel they have. Women in their space i.e. public space is not taken as one amongst them. I have written it very clumsily still i hope you understand.
I think i understand where you are coming from, the comment section shows what you have to put up with.
hey thanks l>t for being such a sweetheart. sigh! atleast someone is there.
We've all been through similar experiences, I think. And no, there's no point looking to anyone for help - bad enough you've stepped out of your designated role as submissive woman who shouldn't be either seen or heard, bad enough you've dared to behave as though your body was your own and, horror or horrors, flaunted your sexuality, you actually dare to seek encouragement and expect people to condone your actions! Men will use the power they think they have over you to put you in 'your place', and most women are too scared to question the status quo. Time was when I'd dress differently, more modestly, perhaps? when boarding buses, and would shrink into a corner should a man sit next to me - but not any more. I have every right to public places and bus seats (which anyway are wide enough to accomodate 2 people comfortably), and as a free citizen of a free country, I have the right to clothe by body in whatever I choose to wear. Good for you, Solan.
you go girl! If you've got it, flaunt it!
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